tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post7782109103598758374..comments2024-03-28T07:00:12.226-04:00Comments on Romance Novels for Feminists: When Someone Hates a Book You LoveJackie C. Hornehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04146684628443152376noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-19502202128271723612015-09-14T11:46:56.598-04:002015-09-14T11:46:56.598-04:00Interesting distinction you draw here, Jenny. When...Interesting distinction you draw here, Jenny. When people say "I don't know" when I ask them why or why not they liked a book, that drives me batty! My daughter has been on a urban fantasy/steampunk romance kick this summer, and she'll often say she likes or doesn't like a book. But she doesn't often want to talk about why or why not. I have to respect her desire to not engage in critical analysis of her pleasure reading, but it still makes me sad, that chance for connecting lost...Jackie C. Hornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04146684628443152376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-21604033579304042082015-09-13T17:44:52.465-04:002015-09-13T17:44:52.465-04:00I think it depends on whether I can see where they...I think it depends on whether I can see where they're coming from! Most often, when someone hates a book I loved, it's because they were bothered by an aspect of the book that didn't bother me, and I can say, Okay, yeah, that's a facet of the book, I can see how a person wouldn't like it. The most likely thing to really bum me out is if someone reads a book I loved and can't say why exactly, so they'll just say "Oh the narrative voice bugged me." THAT'S when I feel like maybe they just don't get ME. :pJenny @ Reading the Endhttp://readingtheend.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-43152253390822543352015-09-13T12:46:20.531-04:002015-09-13T12:46:20.531-04:00Welcome back to you too, Bona!
Yes, that initial ...Welcome back to you too, Bona!<br /><br />Yes, that initial emotional reaction to the rejection is tough, isn't it? Good thing the thinking part of the brain kicks in and lets us remember that even if someone doesn't share our tastes, that doesn't mean they're an idiot; they often have valid things to say that we've overlooked because of our investment in the book. I think it's fascinating to explore what things trigger that "involved" response in different people...<br /><br />Jackie C. Hornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04146684628443152376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-38852921514874984332015-09-13T12:41:33.580-04:002015-09-13T12:41:33.580-04:00I really like the words you use here, Hazel—they s...I really like the words you use here, Hazel—they say you respect that your friends may have different tastes, but simultaneously extend the invitation to dialogue. I'll have to remember them next time I want to recommend a well-loved book...Jackie C. Hornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04146684628443152376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-91923424657503602792015-09-13T12:40:25.245-04:002015-09-13T12:40:25.245-04:00How do you "just put them out there," Pe...How do you "just put them out there," Pedersanna? Verbal recommendations? Have them lying on the table at your house? Recommend them online?Jackie C. Hornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04146684628443152376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-35283365326017979412015-09-13T05:03:35.946-04:002015-09-13T05:03:35.946-04:00Hello, wellcome back!
I'll try to answer your...Hello, wellcome back!<br /><br />I'll try to answer your questions.<br /><br />I think I feel comfortable enough to recommend a book when I have loved that book <i>and</i> I know it's not only me, but that there are many people out there that have also loved this book, and I know they liked it because I've seen good reviews in blogs and webpages. I don't recommend on my sole experience of that book.<br /><br />About the other question - <i>how do you respond when cherish a book, but someone you like hates it?</i><br /><br />Badly, at first. I mean, the first thought that comes to my mind is -you don't know a shit about this-. Which is completely unfair, as not all the readers are the same and sometimes it's not the book but you. It happens the other way around. There are many books people adore that I just cannot stand -<i>Outlander</i> comes usually to my mind when I say this-. So after my first emotional response I try to understand why <i>that</i> person had <i>that</i> experience with <i>that</i> book. <br />And do you know what? Many times they are right, they point out problematic things that you can really find in the book. The only difference is that I was so involved in the story, or the writer's style, that I could overlook those things and enjoy the book.<br />In the end, I'm not very sure we really know why we love or detest a book. I'm afraid that sometimes a book gets to a part of your unconscious mind, or tickle a certain emotion you are not aware of.Bona Caballerohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08999745390738959715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-35998771375278435792015-09-12T05:16:01.301-04:002015-09-12T05:16:01.301-04:00One of my favorite books, "American Gods"...One of my favorite books, "American Gods", is hard for me to recommend to others. It involves a bit of mythology in a way that may upset others because of their beliefs, plus there is a sex scene (not in a romantic way). But I love the way the story stretches the boundaries of what's possible out there, and it's a good story to boot, so I usually have to say, "You may not like this book, but if you do, I think we'll have a lot to talk about afterward!" Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09074390875167936939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-87171867704987587802015-09-12T02:15:25.224-04:002015-09-12T02:15:25.224-04:00I love "The Witch of Blackbird Pond" so ...I love "The Witch of Blackbird Pond" so much I feel like it's a part of me. I don't recommend books I love anymore because it is so hurtful, it's like I'm being rejected! So I just put them out there but don't "push" them. It's a very interesting topic, though--it could be a way of exploring the variables we can't control that influence our response to particular books. No matter how much I want to love the book my friend loves, other factors (what are they?) can prevent it. Pedersannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07861796326023579276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630346294397505634.post-38689897496904338192015-09-11T18:25:37.850-04:002015-09-11T18:25:37.850-04:00I know this feel! Although somehow we still manage...I know this feel! Although somehow we still manage to respect each other, despite my not getting the love for "Witch of Blackbird Pond" and you not getting my love for the Prydain Chronicles. Anyway, I will move Uprooted up on my to-read list...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com